Different ways to change our energy levels
We all have days where we feel depleted, where we can’t be bothered to do anything or we’re a bit fed up. For some of us that feeling can go deeper and we can get really down, wanting to shut ourselves away, cancel plans and want to just hibernate. The longer we are in this…
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How to build a better relationship with your body
Most of us have a lot more critical things to say about our body than positive things. The more critical we are, the less we want to pay attention to it, we would much rather ignore it. We are bombarded by images of perfect bodies, we are surrounded by information about nutrition and exercise. We…
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Exploring our own judgemental thoughts
By Catriona Morten I remember when I was doing my social worker training and being told we had to be non-judgemental. We all agreed and then all agreed that none of us were judgemental anyway, we were all going to be really good social workers. I couldn’t help noticing however, that I found several people…
Why we need more than just affirmations to set a boundary
We all know that boundaries is something we all need in life. I often read articles about setting boundaries, where they give tips and advice on what to do. It’s actually quite a complicated process, if it wasn’t then we wouldn’t struggle with it. There is no point just deciding on a boundary we need…
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How do you know if someone has a secure attachment?
A secure attachment style is formed when our needs are met in a consistent and appropriate way. It means our carers were able to provide what we needed, when we needed it, most of the time. As babies, our carers were able to work out why we were crying through either trial and error, or…
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Understanding an avoidant attachment
As with all the attachment styles, avoidant attachment forms depending upon how our physical and emotional needs were met. We develop an avoidant attachment when our needs were consistently not met. This can be for a number of reasons. The carer may not have known how to respond due to a lack of confidence, they…
Understanding a disorganised attachment
Attachment isn’t a choice, we have to form one in order to survive. This means we are capable of being very adaptive, even if the people caring for us are unpredictable or at times, dangerous. With a disorganised attachment, you learn very quickly what gets you the right kind of attention and how to avoid…
Understanding an ambivalent attachment
Ambivalent attachment is the most common style of attachment I see with my clients. This has led me to believe that’s it’s the one which can cause major issues in everyday life. It’s how we respond and adapt when we’ve had very inconsistent care growing up, or there were significant changes in our formative years.…
How our attachments are formed as newborns
This is a topic that most people have some awareness of, however, what I hear from people is that they believe it’s complicated and confusing, but they also know that somehow it’s important and plays a big but unseen part in our lives. Our ability to form an attachment is crucial for our survival. Newborn…
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What stops us being productive and motivated?
Being productive really came into the spotlight as lockdown wore on. In the beginning, lots of very well meaning ideas started to appear on social media. We were encouraged to see this time as an opportunity that we might never have again. We had more time on our hands than ever before and the pressure…
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