Understanding an avoidant attachment
As with all the attachment styles, avoidant attachment forms depending upon how our physical and emotional needs were met. We develop an avoidant attachment when our needs were consistently not met. This can be for a number of reasons. The carer may not have known how to respond due to a lack of confidence, they…
Understanding a disorganised attachment
Attachment isn’t a choice, we have to form one in order to survive. This means we are capable of being very adaptive, even if the people caring for us are unpredictable or at times, dangerous. With a disorganised attachment, you learn very quickly what gets you the right kind of attention and how to avoid…
Understanding an ambivalent attachment
Ambivalent attachment is the most common style of attachment I see with my clients. This has led me to believe that’s it’s the one which can cause major issues in everyday life. It’s how we respond and adapt when we’ve had very inconsistent care growing up, or there were significant changes in our formative years.…
How our attachments are formed as newborns
This is a topic that most people have some awareness of, however, what I hear from people is that they believe it’s complicated and confusing, but they also know that somehow it’s important and plays a big but unseen part in our lives. Our ability to form an attachment is crucial for our survival. Newborn…
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What stops us being productive and motivated?
Being productive really came into the spotlight as lockdown wore on. In the beginning, lots of very well meaning ideas started to appear on social media. We were encouraged to see this time as an opportunity that we might never have again. We had more time on our hands than ever before and the pressure…
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Let’s talk about anxiety
Feeling stressed and anxious is normal for us humans. Normal that is if we know why and the levels of anxiety seem appropriate. However, a lot of people experience almost constant levels of anxiety from the minute they wake up, or at certain times of the day. This kind of anxiety is a different and…