The Mental Health Journey
How our physical & emotional needs were met by our carers. Their reaction & response to us being hurt, upset, happy or scared. It affects how we cope & respond to our own needs & how we react to others.
This determines what coping mechanisms we use to manage our emotions & physical sensations. How we do this affects how resilient we are, our capacity to copy & how we regulate our nervous system.
This determines what kind of relationships we have with others, what type of people we are drawn to & repelled by. How we behave & adapt when we’re in a relationship.
Our different life experiences our varied relationships with others will formulate how we adapt, behave, feel & think. This allows us to develop different parts of ourselves, all of different ages & all with different roles & purposes.
The combination of our resilience from attachment, how we respond & regulate ourselves emotionally & physically, & how we relate to others has a profound bearing on how affected we are by extreme life events. This determines how susceptible we are to trauma & suffering PTSD or other trauma related issues.
The extent to which we are affected by our emotions, issues with relationships & trauma will have a huge bearing on the way we behave & react. The cause & effect will lead us through cycles of patterns of behaviours, in response to how we react & how our body is affected.
Our behaviour & responses both emotionally & physically will make sense when looked at in relation to life events & all the stages above. Understanding this helps us know what pieces & experiences are missing. We can learn to meet our needs in a healthier, more compassionate way & learn how to tolerate emotion & allow it to process, instead of shutting it down or avoiding it. We can work with all our parts from a place of acceptance & allowing change & healing when we know how to listen & stop doing battle with ourselves.